Last Monday, we started our week off with the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge. We worked through days 1-5 and I would like to keep it moving by introducing days 6-10! If you have been participating, I want to encourage you to keep at it! If you missed the first 5 days and would like to jump in this week, we welcome you.
SNAPSHOT OF THE CHALLENGE:
- The purpose of the challenge is to encourage your husband!
- Your decision means that you truly want to be a blessing in your home.
- This challenge will also result in spiritual growth in your own life.
- For thirty days, don’t say anything negative to or about your husband. Also, say something positive to and about your husband each day.
I have posted days 6-10 below. Here is the link for the remaining days from Revive Our Hearts!
Day Six: Praise His Creative Efforts
Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. —1 Corinthians 10:31
Is your husband the creative type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special knack he has? Affirm him for his handiwork—a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, and so on. Remember, even if he doesn’t measure up to your standards, praise his efforts.
If you have a hard time finding his creative side, understand that men’s creativity is sometimes related to their work. Find something he does exceptionally well to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work . . . and let him know that you have noticed. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.
Action Step: Praise his creativity.
Do you recognize and appreciate your husband’s creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts? Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God. Make his day—praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.
A Wife’s Prayer
Heavenly Father, show me how You have wired my husband to reflect Your creative heart. Teach me to be an encouragement as he uses his gifts and talents to solve problems, serve others, and advance the Kingdom. Thank You for revealing Your creativity through my husband, for Your glory!
Day Seven: United on the Financial Front
Do not toil to acquire wealth; be discerning enough to desist. When your eyes light on it, it is gone, for suddenly it sprouts wings, flying like an eagle toward heaven.. —Proverbs 23:4–5
Granting an inheritance to those who love me, and filling their treasuries. —Proverbs 8:21
Money is the root of much marital discord. Too often financial stress causes couples to abandon unity and see each other as the enemy. Scripture tells us that our battle is not against flesh and blood; we must fight to maintain a unified front. Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases—checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward before the Lord?
If he longs to honor God by being a good steward, let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters. If this is an area of weakness for him, pray about how you can support his growth. Encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he’s open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.
Action Step: Strengthen Your Financial Front
Whether your husband is strong or weak in financial matters, you can strengthen your financial front by encouraging what he does well and giving grace where he’s weak. Ask yourself: Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances? Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.
A Wife’s Prayer
Heavenly Father, help me to rest fully in You in the area of finances. Teach me to praise and encourage and help, rather than criticize and complain and hinder. Please strengthen our financial front and grant us unity in financial decisions. Bless my husband with a tender heart that longs to honor You with everything we own, and grant him wisdom to dedicate all resources for the Kingdom and the Gospel.
Day Eight: Planting Faithfulness
But a faithful man who can find? —Proverbs 20:6
Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and spiritual commitments.
Consider the ways your husband displays faithfulness—how he is loyal to you, how he honors the Lord, how he continues on in his work and ministry. Begin to praise him for being faithful and praise God for helping him to remain true to his commitments.
This area will be difficult for you if your husband is prone to break his word or act unfaithfully toward you. Know that the Lord is near the brokenhearted, sustaining you in whatever pain you’ve experienced. Be sure to seek counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple who can help you respond biblically. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands “may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives” (1 Pet. 3:1).
Whatever your circumstance, your challenge is to root out all negative speaking toward your husband and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow!
Action Step: Plant Seeds of Faithfulness
Plant seeds of faithfulness into your husband’s heart by praising his integrity and loyal actions. Write him a note expressing how much it means to you that he has honored his marriage vow.
A Wife’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, cultivate within my husband a faithful heart, one that longs to beat with integrity and flow with sacrificial love. Show me how I can plant seeds of faithfulness through my actions and attitudes toward my husband, and help me to wait on Your harvest in his heart.
Day Nine: Take Time to Listen
Be quick to hear, slow to speak. —James 1:19
We are often so busy speaking that we don’t take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment—negative or positive—that we don’t really hear our husband’s heart. Remember, we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!
As you continue in your 30-day challenge, not speaking negatively and focusing on positive encouragement, hear the Lord’s admonition today: “Be quick to hear.”
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more—not only to God, but also to him.
Action Step: Learn something new.
One easy way to give focused attention to your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys and then listen to his response. If it’s an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn’t know, then tell him, “Wow, I didn’t know that!”
A Wife’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, open my ears to hear—truly hear—my husband. Teach me to patiently pursue his heart by asking probing questions. Awaken my curiosity for all the unspoken things hidden as treasure in his heart and soul. Help me to honor what he shares with me and never use it as ammunition against him.
Day Ten: Remember: You Chose Him
Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful. —Song of Songs 1:16
We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved, pursued and special. When’s the last time you remembered everything you admire about your husband? Early love letters probably reflected that admiration! But if we’re not careful to verbalize our admiration, our spouse will forget why we were drawn to him.
And when we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent admiring and remembering why we chose that person in the first place! As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, “How can I admire him?”
Action Step: Count the ways you love him—then tell him.
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical characteristic or something else? Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easygoing confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him! If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.
A Wife’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, I confess that it is often easier to criticize than admire. Please forgive my critical spirit and free me to remember all the things that nudged me to choose my husband in the first place. Remind me of things I’ve forgotten, and even point out things I’ve been blind to. Loosen my tongue to speak words of admiration and renew in me a deep, passionate love for my husband.
My hope is that this challenge will center our hearts on praying for our husbands often. Someone once said that it takes 21 days to turn something into a habit. I hope this challenge turns into a way of life for many of us, instead of just a one month challenge. My prayer is that over the course of time our marriages will be renewed, healed and strengthened in Christ through the power of love, prayer and encouragement.
Thank you for joining in! Follow me on Facebook every morning to learn how the challenge is going for me and share your experiences as well. I look forward to journeying with you!
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