We have made it to the final week of the challenge! How does it feel? In what ways have you been challenged? In what ways do you feel your marriage has grown? I know this was not the easiest challenge. It took a lot of discipline and selflessness. My hope is that the investment was worth the growth you’ve seen in your marriage over the course of this past month. Thank you for participating and allowing Jesus to be the center of your marriage. Enjoy the last 5 days of the challenge below.
SNAPSHOT OF THE CHALLENGE:
- The purpose of the challenge is to encourage your husband!
- Your decision means that you truly want to be a blessing in your home.
- This challenge will also result in spiritual growth in your own life.
- For thirty days, don’t say anything negative to or about your husband. Also, say something positive to and about your husband each day.
I have posted days 26-30 below. This is the very last week. However, if you have not had the opportunity to participate in the challenge and would like to, here is the link for the complete challenge from Revive Our Hearts!
Day Twenty-six: Strike a Balance
And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and man. —Luke 2:52
If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some changes in his life . . . and your own life, as well. Encouragement is a wonderful habit that we hope you will continue for the rest of your life.
The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.
Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask how you can further encourage him.
If your husband is out of balance—focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others—consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?
Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!
Action Step: Be a stabilizing force.
Take time to consider how you can be a stabilizing force in your husband’s life. If he’s fairly steady, verbalize to him what a great job he does in this area. If he’s out of balance, ask him if there is any way you can serve him to bring stability. Be ready to make changes and adjustments to bring balance.
A Wife’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, would you help us find the right balance in life? There are so many good things to do—but You have called us to seek first Your Kingdom and Your righteousness. Teach us to balance our lives according to Your will. Help me to be willing to change for the good of my marriage and home and for Your Kingdom.
Day Twenty-seven: Acknowledge His Courage
Be strong, and let your heart take courage, all you who wait for the Lord! —Psalm 31:24
You have almost completed the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge. Perhaps it has taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of encouragement consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words have been shared.
There are lots of “tough guys” in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the attacks of the enemy?
Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from “waiting” on the Lord for His strength. Such spiritual courage is a gift and blessing to you—thank the Lord of it and praise your husband for the covering he supplies.
Action Step: Give him a Courage Award.
As your budget allows, award your husband with a medal, trophy, framed picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of God. Openly praise evidences of your husband’s courage in protecting you, your marriage, your family, or your home.
A Wife’s Prayer
Heavenly Father, I thank you for the way my husband shows care and covering. Help me to rest under his care, to not fight against it. Show me how to encourage him in faith and to continue to fight the battle on our behalf.
Day Twenty-eight: The Beauty of Humility
The fear of the Lord is the instruction in wisdom, and humility comes before honor. —Proverbs 15:33
As part of your Encouragement Challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Sometimes when we just know we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride. Speak wisely and well, and leave the results to God.
The humility that comes from a right relationship with God—the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word—is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when He was willing to submit to His Father’s will (John 6:38; Matt. 26:39).
Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage relationship.
Action Step: Ask for a humble heart.
The humble heart is convicted of its need for grace and mercy. Ask God to grant you humility to see how you have acted in pride toward your husband. Seek his forgiveness and practice humility in the days to come.
A Wife’s Prayer
Heavenly Father, search my heart and show me areas of pride hidden in my heart. I confess them to You and ask You to give me courage to confess to my husband in order to make amends. Lord Jesus, grant us Your mind and heart to walk in humility with one another.
Day Twenty-nine: Standing for Righteousness
The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it. —Proverbs 27:12
As you near the end of your Encouragement Challenge, take time to think about your husband’s responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, and the world. Does your husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography, sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?
This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the wicked advances of Potiphar’s wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins are first and foremost sins against God (Gen. 39:9).
Action Step: Praise him for righteous choices.
Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today—and express your gratitude.
A Wife’s Prayer
Heavenly Father, would You strengthen my husband’s resolve to stand strong against the world, the flesh, and the devil? Protect him from evil and remind him of his need for Your help. Keep him hungry for You so that nothing else satisfies. Help me to praise his choices that honor You and promote the Kingdom.
Day Thirty: Love in Word and Deed
This is my beloved and this is my friend. —Song of Songs 5:16
Friendship is something that is cultivated through the good times and the bad. Friends can share their hearts, but they don’t step on each other’s hearts. Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when truth is not spoken in love.
How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so used to him that you don’t appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today, to make sure your husband knows he is your sweetheart and best friend. Does he know this? Have you told him, or do you assume he just knows?
Don’t assume. Everyone loves to hear that they are special. Take time to appreciate your husband by demonstrating it to him. Tell him with your kind words; show him with your kind acts.
Action Step: Love is an action word.
The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As you end this 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, celebrate your friendship with your husband. Get alone, and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and frame a poem about him.
Perhaps you can prepare a special meal, just for the two of you, and read the letter or poem to him. Ask if you can pray for him—if he is willing, thank God for your love and friendship, asking for His blessing on your home. Encouragement, as you have seen these past thirty days, is a synonym for love in action.
A Wife’s Prayer
Lord Jesus, You have loved us with Your words as well as with Your deeds. Thank You for making it clear and help me to follow in Your footsteps so that the fullness of my love for my husband is clear. Let me continue to speak words of love and to show deeds of love in the days to come. Thank You for my husband, and thank You for growing me into an encouraging wife.
How has this challenge changed your heart and life, dear friend? Did God encourage you as you planned ways to encourage your husband? Were there difficult days where you simply needed to trust that God was working? Days when it was hard to leave the results to God? Remember that God is faithful, and He will bless you for your willingness to obey Him. His ways are not our ways, and perhaps He will honor you in ways you do not expect. But one thing is sure—you will never be the same because of your commitment to be more like Christ!
What kinds of victories have you experienced in your home since you started the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge? Would you take a moment to share these victories with us?
My hope is that this challenge will center our hearts on praying for our husbands often. Someone once said that it takes 21 days to turn something into a habit. I hope this challenge turns into a way of life for many of us, instead of just a one month challenge. My prayer is that over the course of time our marriages will be renewed, healed, and strengthened in Christ through the power of love, prayer and encouragement.
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